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Boys Thoughts About Sexual Harassment
We have heard a lot about verbal harassment cases that occur in everyday life. Most cases that rise to the surface experienced by girls. However, this does not rule out that boys can also be victims of sexual harassment. Therefore, we also asked male respondents some questions about their opinions regarding this issue. What do they think are harassing words and how they react when they hear those words.
What do you know about verbal sexual harassment?
Aliando, 22, Artist
Sexual harassment directed at the victim with unpleasant words.
Mimin, 22, College Student
Unconscious behavior with the intention of joking to expect a sweet response from the victim or those around him/her.
Have you ever experienced verbal sexual harassment? What kind of words that make you uncomfortable so they can be categorized as verbal sexual harassment?
Arejasana, 22, College Student
Maybe. Being tempted by someone unfamiliar with inappropriate words such as calling someone with one’s physical condition. For example, referring to someone by calling body parts like the buttocks and chest, or words that lead to things that are not polite.
Mimin, 22, College Student
I think maybe, like received a calling from someone who is not really close like: hi dear, handsome, or pretty.
Mr. B, 21, College Student
Yes, I have. Such as profane words that harass the body.
What kind of words do you think deserves to be called a joke when socializing?
Arejasana, 22, College Student
You can call your friend is stupid and lazy as a joke. With condition that such a word is expressed to someone we have known for a long time, where that person is a friend or friend who has understood each other
Mr. B, 21, College Student
Sentences that do not describe someone else to be ridiculed, but intended for yourself.
What kind of sentence do you think deserves to be called a form of compliment when socializing?
Akatsuki, 23, College Student
Praise for achievements in academic, career, and family relations.
Helmy, 21, College Student
It would be better if the compliment was delivered in a polite manner.
What was your reaction when you received a verbal sexual harassment words?
Akatsuki, 23, College Student
I was shocked and tried to not be provoked.
Aliando, 22, Artist
I never receive verbal sexual harassment. But if it happens to me, I will feel angry, furious, and wanted to hit the person who say that.
Helmy, 21, College Student
I was disappointed when I heard that.
Based on the results of the survey, most respondents stated that they were not sure whether the words they received were considered harassment or not. This can be caused by the environment that already considers it normal so, or it could be a lack of knowledge about sexual harassment in the community at this time. Responding to the problem, what we can do at this time is to learn more about sexual harassment education, spread information about that, and start listening to people’s opinions when they receiving verbal harassment.
